Reflection on Identity & Final Arrangements

Representing Dignity Memorial at a Pride Chamber event is extremely meaningful to me. I was honored to host a table at the Pride Chamber’s Golf Expo this past weekend, and grateful for those who stopped by the table to share their personal stories. Many are comforting and even uplifting experiences – but not all. When i hear from the LGBTQ+ community about funeral experiences i’m often struck by the impact of anxiety about – and experience of – discrimination at a time of grief and loss.

I read a heartbreaking article a few years ago about a funeral home refusing to cremate a man’s husband because it did not “deal with their kind.” I’ve heard from people who shared that they contracted with a funeral home only to find out that they couldn’t have the celebration of life they wanted; they were asked to “tone down” their services or to not bring attention to the LGBTQ+ identity of the deceased or guests. Others have shared that they felt they had to be intentional about hiding their identity when talking to a funeral home.

And while we’re on such experiences, i’ve heard from my fellow Atheists who didn’t think they could use a funeral home for services or were anxious about having to meet with a funeral professional because of anticipated or previously experienced faith bias. I’ve even learned there are funeral homes that have refused to serve people who are having an abortion at Planned Parenthood.

At such a terrible time of loss, no one should have to feel judged or be treated differently because of their identity or circumstance.

The funeral business can be a faith-biased industry; you may encounter funeral homes or funeral professionals who are not open to serving YOU.

Dignity Memorial – the company i serve with

I don’t know about other funeral providers in our area, but i know the pre-need advisors, funeral directors, and staff with whom i work at Dignity Memorial funeral homes are committed to serving our diverse communities. There are many reasons i’m proud to serve with Dignity; our commitment to the LGBTQ+ community is one of them.

My commitment to YOU – How can i help?

And for anyone concerned that their identity or circumstances might cause them to be treated differently, you have a friend & ally in the funeral business – me. Discussing final arrangements in advance prevents surprises for your family when the time comes. Consultations are free, with no obligation. Let’s talk about it.